When I was younger I thought changing my mind is a crime.
It’s shameful to make a mistake.
You’re worthless if you don’t go along with the program…
Other people’s program, of course.
Now that I’m older, I’ve learned some incredible things.
1️⃣ I have the right to judge my own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon myself.
2️⃣ I have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying my behavior.
3️⃣ I have the right to judge if I am responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.
4️⃣ I have the right to change my mind.
5️⃣ I have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.
6️⃣ I have the right to say, “I don’t know.”
7️⃣ I have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others.
8️⃣ I have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
9️⃣ I have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”
🔟 I have the right to say, “I don’t care.”
(adapted from “When I Say No I Feel Guilty”)
We grew up with so many rules by adults who tried to control us as hyper children, full of energy, and a sense of exploration.
We forgot that these were not rights, just rules.
And some of these rules were OUTRIGHT NOT RIGHT!
Time to let’em go!
Are you a grownup yet?