I was just talking with a friend. He was all worked up and a nervous wreck. “The sky is falling, the world is coming to an end. The stocks are falling and Covid isn’t yet coming to an end!”
This is a result of listening to the news.
Did you know that the ratio of negative news versus positive news broadcasted is an astounding 13:1 ?!
That is 13 NEGATIVE news to each 1 positive news!
Of course if we listen to or watch the news we are overloaded with negative news! That is why my friend was so nervous!
At The Mint Capital we have a voluntary program called “No News Is Good News”, where 12 loan officers avoid listening to the news for 30 consecutive days. They are now repeating another round of 30 days!
It’s a real game changer. The world becomes a more normal place to live in. Life becomes simpler. Even Covid seems to be on the mend.
When someone falls into the mud, should you jump into the mud to save them? Or stay on solid ground to pull them out?
Don’t deprive people of their struggles and suffering, because we grow and develop through suffering.
Nobody grows in serious personal development by winning the lottery and sailing through life.
People grow when they are pushed by mental/emotional/physical pain and struggle.
Of course we don’t wish for anyone to suffer serious anguish. We need to help our fellow friends with all our strength and resources. BUT, we do not get into the mud of their struggles. We lend a hand and help them climb out.
Because the only way we can help is if that person wants to be helped. We cannot do it for them. It needs to come from within.
We always want to help others. You might feel that you have gone through that same experience 20 years ago and have the answers to help your friend.
But, don’t deprive them of developing their inner self!
Because, you are where you are now only because of your past struggles.
How has your past struggles shaped your current life?
Start the “100 day rejection challenge” to desensitize yourself to rejection to internalize that when you get a “NO” it doesn’t hurt you.
The 100 day rejection challenge works by seeking out rejection for 100 days, like asking random strangers to borrow money or requesting a plate refill at a restaurant. Asking questions that usually elicit a ‘no’ will help the person desensitize to the pain and shame often associated with rejection.
Try it out. Here are some suggestions:
Ask to test drive a dream luxury car.
Ask to fly a plane.
Ask the tax authority to lower your taxes.
Ask your utility/mortgage/credit card company to forgo payment for a year.
Disclaimer: You may get a “yes” for an answer (you never know!).
There is a similar exercise i heard at a seminar, where he encouraged people to go out and get rejected by asking for crazy favors like borrowing $25,000 or sending them 6 kids to babysit for the week.
Truthfully, who decides which kind of questions are normal? Who is ‘normal’ in the first place? Why do we measure the ‘normalness’ of others according to our own metrics?
If you will only do what is considered normal (according to others) then you will never lead a happy life. Be true to yourself and don’t fear rejection!