You can’t make me angry!
It’s the title of an excellent book on emotional healing.
The title says it all.
It’s common for people to allow themselves to get stirred up by other people’s actions.
I like to ask myself, “where is the problem?
(Pointing with the finger) There? or Here?”
When you point one finger there, you are pointing three fingers here, to yourself.
There’s a famous saying, from the Baal Shem Tov, a great Jewish mystic from 300 years ago.
“What you see in others is what you have within.”
Like phycology says, “We hate in our children what we hate in ourselves.”
So, what’s the solution?
It’s recognizing that the problem is within; it is with the way “I” feel about it.
“I” need the healing – so I won’t get affected by other’s actions.
We want to stay balanced; we don’t want to mess with our equilibrium; we want our world to stay sane and solid.
To be a rock in a storm.
Some tools that you can use are meditation, breathing, rhythmic breathing, box breathing.
Box Breathing is an app that helps with balanced breathing.
Make a gratitude list every day.
I’ve shared about the Hundred Gratitude list, in the past.
Hundred gratitudes for 40 days.
Think about it.
Like Gandhi says:
Be the change you want to see in the world!